How about “Don’t Care”?  So long as the soldier in question serves professionally and honorably and does the job, I could care less if that soldier is gay, straight, bi or whatever.  It simply has no bearing on the defense of our nation.

In fact, the man who wrote the US Army’s first drill manual was heavily rumored to be gay.  He probably was.  That didn’t stop him from being a VERY effective leader. (Neither did the fact that he barely spoke any English…)